Being present, is the first layer of defence against the 2nd arrow. So you are doing much more than the physical action by being present as the psychological shield!
This resonates with me so much. This line in particular: "I can’t organise grief. I can’t solve it. I can’t take it off them, no matter how much I want to." Sending you hugs x
Thank you Jo, I appreciate your thoughtful contribution. The things we cannot time or control are those that fill us with the most fear in my experience.
Thanks for sharing this Ash. It’s so important, especially for those of us that are action oriented. Simply be there. I have to remind myself that showing up to be present is action. Often harder than the traditional actions we take. But it matters.
Thank you so much Ashley, I always genuinely appreciate your insight. It has been a tough week but the pain has promoted a little growth in me. Probably one of the shortest and simplest pieces I've written, but paradoxically the hardest.
Good article Ash & it resonates so much, it is often difficult not to step into physical action and just let the healing to its time.
It reminds me of the Buddhist parable of the 2 arrows.
1st arrow - inevitable pain, unfortunately unavoidable.
2nd arrow - emotional reaction, judgment & overthinking.
Being present, is the first layer of defence against the 2nd arrow. So you are doing much more than the physical action by being present as the psychological shield!
This resonates with me so much. This line in particular: "I can’t organise grief. I can’t solve it. I can’t take it off them, no matter how much I want to." Sending you hugs x
Thank you Jo, I appreciate your thoughtful contribution. The things we cannot time or control are those that fill us with the most fear in my experience.
Thanks for sharing this Ash. It’s so important, especially for those of us that are action oriented. Simply be there. I have to remind myself that showing up to be present is action. Often harder than the traditional actions we take. But it matters.
I really like the analogy to the 2 Buddha arrows Craig - very insightful. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts
Thank you so much Ashley, I always genuinely appreciate your insight. It has been a tough week but the pain has promoted a little growth in me. Probably one of the shortest and simplest pieces I've written, but paradoxically the hardest.